"Don't be so hard on yourself!" Recently, I gave someone that advice. Then I realized: I'm the hardest on my own damn self! Have I forgiven myself for past mistakes? Hell no! I'm still shuddering over poor choices I made 30 years ago! I think when you stop and think about your patterns of behavior and really take the time to "see," then you can start taking steps towards changing the behaviors, and stop making the same choices that cause you to stumble in life. But first things first! You have …